Last week we wrote on how to know when you are ready for marriage, but here are some experts (not mine) who advise on how to be the woman a man will take down the aisle. Blessing Ukemena writes
Be a woman any day, any where
Take pride and dignity in your womanhood. Have self respect. I tell women every day that if you don’t respect yourself, then no one in the relationship respects you.
You make everyone else respect you, why do you let a man disrespect you? A man shouldn’t even have a choice in whether or not he is going to respect you, make him respect you.
Not just financially, but be an independent thinker overall. Take the time to learn you and what works best for you instead of taking someone else’s advice and forcing yourself into a box.
Your core person should not change simply because you are in a relationship. Be independent of your man and have your own life, goals and ambitions.
Stay on your tippy toes
Don’t get comfortable and lazy on your man. Don’t just think that he is going to marry you because you have been together for a few years. Get fine-ER, get smart-ER, be bett-ER. A man wants to see growth in you and wants to be excited about who you will be in the future.
Turn his house into a home
As a single brother, my crib had the bare necessities. A woman came by one day and slowly started to upgrade my stuff in a very subtle but profound way because no woman had ever done it before.
First it was a couple nice decorative candles; then she replaced my picture frames and artwork. She helped me paint a couple of rooms in my house. I was like “She knows what she doing, I am going to marry her.”
Be a godly woman
There is just something sexy to me about a Godly woman. You want a Godly man, don’t you? The Bible is a relationship handbook. Read it. Follow it. Live by it. When your man is weak, you need to be able to refer to that Word. When the Devil attacks, he needs to know that you know God.
Watch his momma, do what she does
You don’t have to be his Momma, but you should try to be in her likeness. Here is an example: during the holidays when you were at your man’s family home, if his grandma, momma and auntie were all in the kitchen and you were in the den watching the game with him, y’all probably had the best time ever, right?
But guess what, he’s probably going to break up with you. You should be in that kitchen with his female relatives or else go and find yourself a man whose mother can’t cook.
Show your womanhood
There are certain things about you that make you woman. There are certain things about you that make you the best woman for him. It is your responsibility to show him your strongest qualities as a woman.
If you know how to take care of a man, then you need to show him that. If you are a great cook – “Show & Prove”. If you have a huge heart that is full of love then he needs to be caught up in your rapture. He better know what makes you unique as a woman.
Be his biggest fan
Women need love. Men need their egos stroked. We need your support, your encouragement, and we need to know that you believe in us.
Tell him that he is a good man, that you are lucky to have him, that he is special and that he is a better man than you had initially thought. If you can’t make your man feel like a man, you won’t have the job for long.
The art of nurturing a man has been lost. Talk sweet to your man and whisper sweet nothings in his ear. Hug him, hold him, squeeze him too.
Being a Black man is hard but with the nurturing of a good Black woman, it’s that much easier. Learn your man. Pay attention to him. Listen. Hold up, let me say that again. LISTEN!
Be the freakiest person he knows
Too many men are cheating. If your man cheats make sure that you are not the reason. How by handling your biz-ness in the bedroom! A man has to know and believe that there is not a woman out there that is going to try harder to please him than you.
That is a basic need for men all over the world so always up your game in within the sheets. Better still don’t show him your prowess in bed till you get married that should make him, trust you, marry you even faster and keep him hooked for life.