The Imam of National Mosque, Abuja, Prof. Ibrahim Ahmad Maqary, has called on married couples to follow the teachings of Prophet Mohammed (SAW) by embracing the virtues of patience and tolerance, describing it as a key to preventing divorce in marriage.
Speaking in Abuja at the weekend on the topic: “Relevance of Marriage Counseling and its Contribution Towards Marriage Sustainance”, Maqary said counseling has a significant role in sustaining marriage as it aids peaceful co-existence amongst married couples,thereby reducing and preventing divorce which he noted was quite rampant in the society.
He highlighted poverty, ignorance, poor knowledge of Islamic teaching and absence of counseling as bane of marriage collapse, calling for the introduction of marriage counseling and pre-marriage training course prior to marriage.
“They should know that marriage is a contract built on understanding, married couples should seek to consult those who have knowledge whenever they cannot settle disputes amongst themselves.
“In cases where wives resort to drugs to get succor or going diabolical in their dealings, the Imam urged such couples to talk to eachother and seek the teaching of the Prophet Mohammed (SAW).
In her submissions, the Amira, FCT, Federation of Muslim Women Association Nigeria, Hajia Mariam Abdullahi, urged married couples to settle their disputes amongst themselves amicably, saying visiting herbalists is ‘haram’, adding that married couples do not have to visit herbalists, parents or even friends to settle their disputes.
“We notice the disturbing increase in domestic violence of hhusbands killing wives and vice versa, all these happen because of lack of tolerance, patience and knowledge,” she said.
Abdullahi decried that unlike before marriage values are not being held to the highest esteem in the north.
“This forum is apt so that we can learn from each other. It is also timely and I will encourage that it should be held monthly,” she added.