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The companions of the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam, were very vigilant in asking him about whatever will benefit them in this world and the next. They asked concerning righteousness, taqwah, and also about destructive things that they should avoid. As part of their questions, they asked concerning how they were to relate to women during their monthly courses. The reason for this question was that they observed the Jews in Madeenah forsaking their wives completely during their menstrual periods; they did not relate to them in any way; they will not eat food prepared by them, in fact, women had to leave them until her period was over, or the husband deserted the house until she was clean. And the Nasaaraa were having an intimate relationship with their wives during their menses. The sahabah were perplexed, so they asked the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam, concerning the issue. So, the Devine Answer descended with even position on menstrual period as it relates to marriage consortium. I said ‘even position’ because our religion teaches moderation – something between extremity and laxity…

“Thus, have We made of you an Ummah justly balanced,..” (al-Baqarah, 143)

In answer to their question, Allah said:

“They ask thee concerning women’s courses. Say: They are a hurt and a pollution: So keep away from women in their courses, and do not approach them until they are clean. But when they have purified themselves, ye may approach them in any manner, time, or place ordained for you by Allah. For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean.” (al-Baqarah, 222)

Coming unto women during their menses is both a hurt and dirt because doing so affects both the man and the woman.

So keep away from women in their courses, refers to either the period or the point of discharge.

“…and do not approach them until they are clean.”

This is not like what the Yahood used to do by forsaking the women completely during the period, not relating to them, or staying with them under one roof, or eating whatever they cooked. Here it refers to amatory and conjugal relations only, not staying away from the house or avoiding any contact with them.

“…and do not approach them until they are clean.” Until the blood stops and the menses ends, or according to some scholars, until they take the gusl, ritual bath.

“But when they have purified themselves, ye may approach them in any manner, time, or place ordained for you by Allah.”

It is not an order, it is only permissible to approach your women when they are clean. Meaning it is not mandatory that you must approach them as soon as they are clean; some men wait for a day or two before they touch them, so it is only permissible that you may do so.

“…ye may approach them in any manner, time, or place ordained for you by Allah. This is a little difficult to explain on these pages. let me try: it is the manner and place of the act in a lawful marriage, not debauchery.

“For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean.”

“Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will, but do some good act for your souls beforehand, and fear Allah. And know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give (these) good tidings to those who believe.” (al-Baqarah, 223)

Tilth refers to the cultivation of land, in that the wives receive the seed that is sowed and watered by their husbands; and children are the vegetation that comes out of the process.

Since your wives are where you cultivate crops, you can go into your farms when you want, how you want and from wherever position you want: meaning, wherever you wish, from the front or from behind, as long as sex takes place in one valve (the female sexual organ), as authentic Hadeeths have indicated.

For instance, Al-Bukhari recorded that Ibn Al-Munkadir said that he heard Jabir say that the Jews used to claim that if one has sex with his wife from behind (in the vagina) the offspring would become cross-eyed. Then, this Ayah was revealed:

“Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth, when or how you will.”
Muslim and Abu Dawud also reported this Hadith.
Ibn Abu Hatim said that Muhammad bin Al-Munkadir narrated that Jabir bin `Abdullah told him that the Jews claimed to the Muslims that if one has sex with their wife from behind (in the vagina) their offspring will become cross-eyed. Allah revealed afterwards:

“Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth, when or how you will.”
Ibn Jurayj (one of the reporters of the Hadith) said that Allah’s Messenger said:

“From the front or from behind, as long as that occurs in the Farj (vagina).”
Imam Ahmad recorded that Ibn `Abbas said, “The Ayah,

“Your wives are a tilth for you” was revealed about some people from the Ansar who came to the Prophet and asked him (about having sex with the wife from behind). He said to them:

“Have sex with her as you like as long as that occurs in the vagina.”
Imam Ahmad recorded that `Abdullah bin Sabit said: I went to Hafsah bint `Abdur-Rahman bin Abu Bakr and said, “I wish to ask you about something, but I am shy.” She said, “Do not be shy, O my nephew.” He said, “About having sex from behind with women.” She said, “Umm Salamah told me that the Ansar used to refrain from having sex from behind (in the vagina). The Jews claimed that those who have sex with their women from behind would have offspring with crossed-eyes. When the Muhajirun came to Al-Madeenah, they married Ansar women and had sex with them from behind. One of these women would not obey her husband and said, `You will not do that until I go to Allah’s Messenger (and ask him about this matter). ‘She went to Umm Salamah and told her the story. Umm Salamah said, `Wait until Allah’s Messenger comes.’ When Allah’s Messenger came, the Ansari woman was shy to ask him about this matter, so she left. Umm Salamah told Allah’s Messenger the story and he said:

“Summon the Ansari woman.”
She was summoned and he recited this Ayah to her:

“Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth, when or how you will.”
He added:

“Only in one valve (the vagina).”
This Hadith was also collected by At-Tirmidhi who decleared it as “Hasan.”
An-Nasa’i reported that Ka`b bin `Alqamah said that Abu An-Nadr said that he asked Nafi`, “The people are repeating the statement that you relate from Ibn `Umar that he allowed sex with women in their rear (anus).” He said, “They have said a lie about me. But let me tell you what really happened. Ibn `Umar was once reciting the Qur’an while I was with him and he reached the Ayah:

“Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth, when or how you will.”

He then said, `O Nafi`! Do you know the story behind this Ayah’ I said, `No.’ He said, `We, the people of Quraysh, used to have sexual intercourse with our wives from the back (in the vagina). When we migrated to Al-Madeenah and married some Ansari women, we wanted to do the same with them. They disliked it and made a big issue out of it. The Ansari women had followed the practice of the Jews who have sex with their women while they lay on their sides. Then, Allah revealed:

“Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth, when or how you will,”
This has an authentic chain of narrators.
Imam Ahmad reported that Khuzaymah bin Thabit Al-Khatami narrated that Allah’s Messenger said:

“Allah does not shy from the truth” – he said it thrice-, “do not have anal sex with women.”

Allah said:

“. ..and send for your own selves beforehand.” meaning, by performing the acts of worship while refraining from whatever Allah has prohibited for you. This is why Allah said afterwards:

“And fear Allah, and know that you are to meet Him (in the Hereafter),” meaning, He will hold you accountable for all of your deeds,

“…and give good tidings to the believers (O Muhammad ).” meaning, those who obey what Allah has commanded and refrained from what He has prohibited. Ibn Jarir reported that `Ata’ said, or related it to Ibn `Abbas,

“…and send for your own selves beforehand.” means, mention Allah’s Name, by saying, `Bismillah’, before having sexual intercourse.” Al-Bukhari also reported that Ibn `Abbas narrated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said:

“If anyone of you on having sexual relations with his wife said: `In the Name of Allah. O, Allah! Protect us from Satan and also protect what you bestow upon us (i.e., the coming offspring) from Satan,’ and if it is destined that they should have a child then, Satan will never be able to harm him.”




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