Scientists discover relationships are more likely to last if you poke fun at your other half
Inside jokes help to ‘affirm your relationship through laughter’
‘Playfulness’ is a ‘crucial component in bonding and relationship security.’
But ‘mean spirited jokes’ may indicate an underlying problem in the relationship
Whether its poking fun at their football team always losing or jibing that they cry over Sir David Attenborough documentaries, scientists have discovered couples who poke fun at each other are more likely to go the distance.
And inside jokes are particularly important because they ‘affirm your relationship through laughter’, the researchers claim.
But, they warn, couples who share ‘mean-spirited jokes’ are unlikely to last, with nasty jibes indicating a problem in the relationship.
The research was carried out by the University of Kansas and led by associate professor Jeffrey Hall from the department of communication studies.
‘Playfulness between romantic partners is a crucial component in bonding and establishing relational security,’ Professor Hall said.
‘Particularly shared laughter, is an important indicator of romantic attraction between potential mates.’
The scientists analysed 39 studies made up of more than 150,000 participants to determine how important humour is in a romantic relationship.
Results – published in full in the next issue of the journal Personal Relationships – suggest that people thinking you are funny or can make a joke out of anything does not mean you will be more lucky in love.
But couples who ‘create humour together’ – via inside jokes – are more likely to last.
‘People say they want a sense of humour in a mate, but that’s a broad concept,’ Professor Hall said.
‘What is strongly related to relationship satisfaction is the humour that couples create together.
‘Say you and your partner share a quirky sense of humour, but romantic comedies or sit-coms do nothing for either of you.
‘It’s not that any style or sense of humour is any better or worse. What matters is you both see quirky humour as hysterical.
‘If you share a sense of what’s funny, it affirms you and affirms your relationship through laughter.’
But before you laugh at your other half’s receding hairline or moan about your mother-in-law, Professor Hall warns couples not to go too far.
‘Having an aggressive sense of humour is a bad sign for the relationship in general, but it is worse if the style of humour is used in the relationship,’ he said.
‘If you think that your partner tells mean-spirited jokes, then it’s likely you’ve seen that first hand in your relationship.’
Culled from Mailononline
I’ve Left Issues In 8th Senate Behind Me – Omo-Agege
Deputy Senate President, Senator Ovie Omo-Agege (APC Delta Central) ,yesterday stated that he has left the issues and treatment meted...
Kogi Guber: Group Rallies Support For Ogah
A Coalition of All Progressives Congress (APC) youths under the aegis of Coalition For Better Kogi State yesterday declared support...
Gbajabiamila Inaugurates Reps Ad-hoc Committees
The Speaker of the House of Representatives, Femi Gbajabiamila, yesterday performed the swearing-in of three adhoc committees set up by...
Group Commends PMB Over Immortalisation Of MKO
A socio-political group under the aegis of The Renaissance Group has commended President Muhammadu Buhari for honouring the late chief...
Angst, Anxiety In Bayelsa Over LG Polls
The conduct of the Bayelsa State local government elections fixed for August 10 is generating bad blood and controversy following...
Jos Hospital Hands Stolen Baby Over To Parents
The Plateau Specialist Hospital, Jos has handed a baby stolen from its maternity ward over to its biological parents after...
30 Dead, 42 Injured In Borno Suicide Bomb Attacks
No fewer than 30 persons were killed and 42 others wounded on Sunday evening when three Boko Haram suicide bombers...
POLITICS12 hours ago
APC Kicks As Bauchi Govt Suspends Inauguration Of 9th Assembly
NEWS22 hours ago
SGF: Coalition Considers Appeal By Ohanaeze Ndigbo As An Assault On The People Of North-Central Zone
BUSINESS24 hours ago
FG Constructed 1200km Of Roads In 3 Years
POLITICS24 hours ago
I‘m Under Pressure Over Political Appointments – Gov Sule
NEWS16 hours ago
1 Killed, 6 Vehicles Destroyed As Kona, Fulani Clash.
NEWS9 hours ago
Taraba Govt Deny Imposing Curfew On Jalingo.
NEWS15 hours ago
Windstorm Destroys Over 1000 Houses In Zamfara LGA
AFRICA10 hours ago
Former Egyptian President Morsi Dies In Court During Sitting