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How You Do One Thing Is How You Do Everything



The holidays are here again! Sure most of our kids are happy campers right now! Talk about having all the time without the demands of homework, wake up time, sleep time and that everyday routine outside the holiday! And yeah, the growth and learning holidays present!

We often think school time is where all the learning is. Apparently, the holidays are a great opportunity that allows kids to get creative about the use of their time. It’s a great time to pick a hobby, do more of a hobby, get together with friends and family, visit places of fun etc. These activities build soft skills and even skills that can help our kids improve on their school grades, yes!

So let’s talk about your child’s grades. How were they? What do they show you?

Have you heard of the slogan: How you do one thing is how you do everything?

Arike was to sweep the kitchen floor and clean the worktable. Apinke on the other hand, was to sweep and dust the living room. Apinke swept with care- lifting the carpets and sweeping with the side of the broom to ensure no spec was spared. She not only dusted every item of furniture in the living room space, she went further to open the compartments of the drawers to sort and dust (she found the iPad charger!) Incredible isn’t it?

I entered the kitchen and found loose broom sticks on the floor, an obvious onion skin and a few perks of dirt on the worktable. The floor even though swept, could have passed for sparingly picked.

There’s something that is far more important than reaching one of our goals: the process that leads us there. How you sweep the kitchen floor will reflect how you form your letters, answer your Science, English and Maths questions. If you’re going to do something – no matter what it is – do it to the best of your ability.

It may seem like you’re just skimping on the small stuff or saving energy for your big tasks, but repetition makes a habit. Eventually, you get yourself used to the idea that doing most of something is okay, and one day that mentality can cross over into the things you do care about. You’ll wonder why success eludes you, but the answer is in your process. If you do one thing lazily, you’ll do everything lazily.

Of course, there’s a difference between not cutting corners and perfectionism. Trying to make everything perfect will burn you out fast. Just give what you really know you can and avoid the easy way out, even for the little things. You’ll be much stronger for it.

The way Arike answers her science and civic questions reflects how she makes her bed and sweeps the kitchen floor and vice versa. She omitted some vital details and I tell you, it isn’t out of not knowing. And when you see Apinke’s bed making and wardrobe arrangement, oh my, you will be as wowed as you would be in her response when answering a question as simple as why pink is her favourite colour or a question in her math or science class!

We need to begin to help our kids make this all-important connection. It’s an important life skill. Allowing them to do chores this holiday is a great way to help them see what they can do better to improve in their academics. So when they take a bottle of water and do not return the lid or fetch garri an do not cover the bucket, they will also not cover their pen with the pen cover after writing or put the assignment in their bag after writing the question.  Everything is connected and indeed, “the way a person does one thing is the way they do everything.”

While it is so tempting to make excuses for them about being on holiday, remember that time is also eluding us with each passing day. House chores (or rather, family contributions) are a responsibility of every member of the family simply because they are a member of that family – no more, no less.

So find a way to make your child contribute to the affairs that makes living in the family conducive for all.  Make it a regular routine for them. At first, they may not do it so perfectly, so you may want to cut them some slacks. I tell you, when you combine the consistency with encouragement, in no time, you (and they) will begin to get more creative about how they attend to their tasks because like I said earlier, it is not really a chore. Rather, it’s their contribution to being a part of the family, an opportunity for their training and a means to develop responsibility. It’s an avenue to encourage subtle growth not only in the work, but also in their academics.

Indeed, how we do one thing, is how we do everything! Check your life pattern too!