I Chose To Make The Difference

The story of Ikpeshi’s emergence from a large but struggling family of 26 in rural Edo State is a powerful reminder that failure is not inherited; it is a choice. His journey demonstrates that determination can overcome even the most profound cycles of limitation.

His father, a well-known farmer in the community, had 26 children from four wives. The family structure was complex, and tensions were inevitable. The fifth wife eventually walked away, alleging that the older wives marginalised her, especially since some of their children were older than she was when she joined the family.

Despite the household challenges, Ikpeshi’s father strongly believed in the importance of education. He sent his first son, immediately after primary six, to a mission secondary school in Akure, Ondo State, a school admired at the time for its emphasis on moral discipline. Unfortunately, his hopes were shattered when that son dropped out. The disappointment hit him hard. Feeling betrayed and embarrassed within the community, he lost the motivation to support the schooling of his remaining children.

Ikpeshi, the 22nd child of the family, vividly remembers those years. “I chose to be different. I refused to repeat the cycle of failure I saw around me. My mother also encouraged me. She always recalled how my grandmother, on her deathbed, pleaded with her to ensure her children received Western education so they could secure a better future,” he said.

After his primary school, he secured admission into an Anglican Church–owned secondary school located five kilometres from his village. The distance, the daily trek, and the lack of encouragement around him would have discouraged many, but for Ikpeshi, each step to school was a declaration of his determination. He refused to let his background decide his future.

How did he fare in secondary school?

During his last year in secondary school, his father took an interest in his education and allowed him to use his treasured bicycle. “I had more time to study and got eight credits in the West African Examinations Council (WAEC).

“A kinsman brought me to Lagos, he recalled. I was employed as an audit clerk, handling raw materials, and was assigned to permanent night duty, six days a week. I studied mechanical engineering at a university in Lagos. Being on permanent night duty allowed me to attend lectures during the day, and I graduated with distinction. I then joined a federal ministry, which retained me after my national service.

Over the years, Ikpeshi rose steadily through the ranks, eventually becoming a director in the same ministry.

Looking back on his tortuous journey and career growth, he said, “Life has taught me that no circumstance, no family background, and no setback is permanent. With determination, hard work, and faith, anyone can rewrite their story. I hope my journey inspires others to believe in themselves, rise above limitations, and choose to make a difference.”