‘I Don’t Want Marriage or Kids’ — Slumflower Opens Up On Fear Of Losing Herself

By Vivian Nguhilen Gbede

British author and social commentator, popularly known as Slumflower, has sparked online debate after she said she has no plans to marry or have children, saying a lot of women “lose themselves” in the process.
This statement, made during a conversation on modern relationships, has sparked discussions around marriage, motherhood, and women’s identity.

According to Slumflower, her decision is driven by a desire to protect her independence and sense of self. The author said she has watched many women sacrifice their dreams, identity, and emotional well-being in marriage and motherhood, stressing that her stance is a personal choice and is not in any way meant to criticise women who choose family life.

Analysts say the debate reflects changing global views on marriage, family and female independence. As reactions continue to pour in, Slumflower’s remarks have pushed conversations about women’s autonomy and personal choice back into the spotlight.