As a late bloomer, my first encounter with menstruation came at the age of well over 15, going on 16. It was a pivotal moment in my life, one that carried unexpected challenges, body changes, awkward moments and valuable lessons.
For me, the onset of menstruation was not just a physical transition but also an emotional and cultural one. My parents, in their wisdom, had decided that I would directly approach my father for my monthly needs. This decision, made without my consultation, initially sparked panic, absurdities and confusion within me. I had a nonverbal challenge with my mum, questioning why she as a woman would think that okay.
The thought of confiding in my father about my menstrual cycle felt overwhelming and invasive. I couldn’t fathom the idea of sharing such an intimate aspect of my life with someone of the opposite gender, let alone my own dad. It seemed like an imposition of shame and embarrassment, and I silently questioned my mother’s reasoning behind this arrangement.
In my quiet rebellion, I resolved to endure the discomfort and inconvenience of menstruation rather than confront my father with my needs. The childish rebellion couldn’t last, because I experienced the softness of my father when I told him and I quickly recognized it as love. From him I understood protection, provision and love. Looking back, I recognize the privileges that came with him being involved because I flexed his money to good use, they answered my cravings, treated my pains too.
Despite my initial resistance, I eventually came to appreciate the unique dynamic I shared with my father during those moments. His gentle demeanor and unwavering support provided me with a sense of security and trust. Through his actions, he taught me valuable lessons about protection, provision, and unconditional love. Daddy, if you’re reading this, thank you for being a total gentle man, teaching me to trust you for protection, provision and love. Thank you Mummy, you’re a virtuous woman and your wisdom all these years has produced fruits.
Today, as I reflect on my journey, I am grateful for the opportunity to embrace menstruation as a natural and integral part of my life. It is a reminder of the resilience and strength that define womanhood. With each passing month, I am reminded of the grace and power inherent in being a woman.
On “Health Situations” today, we are debunking the myths and stigma surrounding menstruation. We are shedding light on the physical and emotional challenges that accompany menstruation, from abdominal cramps to acne, to cravings, to back pain, to waist pain, to hot flashes, to bloating, to high body temperature and loss of appetite. It is a call to action for empathy and kindness towards anyone experiencing their period.
Menstruation should not be shrouded in secrecy or shame. It is a normal and natural process that deserves understanding and respect. By sharing our stories and embracing open dialogue, we can create a supportive environment where everyone feels empowered and accepted.
Join us as we celebrate menstrual health and well-being, and together, let us embrace the beauty and strength of womanhood. Let’s talk openly about the challenges many face during their menstrual cycles and extend empathy and kindness to those experiencing them. There are stories around the world that sparks empathy and gives grace, lets connect the World and break this chain of secrecy, do well to reach out if you have a story to share. Together, we can create a supportive environment where everyone feels heard, understood, and respected. Thank you for allowing me to share my journey, and may we continue to navigate the complexities of womanhood with courage and compassion.
