In a world where speaking English fluently is often seen as the hallmark of intelligence and success, many parents are unintentionally leaving behind something priceless: their native language.
From Yoruba to Igbo, Hausa to Efik, Tiv to Urhobo, countless children across Nigeria and beyond are growing up without the ability to understand or speak their parents’ mother tongue—and it’s a silent loss with lasting impact.
The allure of global languages like English, French, and Spanish is understandable. These languages open doors to academic opportunities, career advancements, and international connections. However, in the rush to teach our children the “languages of success,” we might be inadvertently sidelining an invaluable part of their heritage.
Language is more than just communication; it is a bridge to history, culture, and family traditions. Without it, children may miss out on an essential part of their identity.
Many parents believe that prioritizing English or foreign languages will give their children an edge academically or socially. While fluency in global languages certainly has its benefits, completely sidelining your native dialect can come at the cost of identity, cultural pride, and connection to one’s roots. Language carries within it the values, stories, and practices of generations past. It’s through the language of our ancestors that we pass on cultural wisdom, community beliefs, and shared histories.
Think of your native language as the key to an emotional and spiritual inheritance that transcends words. When children speak their native dialect, they gain access to traditions that may not be as easily conveyed in English. Proverbs, songs, and rituals often lose their richness when translated or spoken in a second language. By maintaining a connection to your language, you are ensuring your children remain close to their roots and develop a deep sense of pride in where they come from.
It’s not about choosing between sophistication and tradition—it’s about balance. Children can master English while still learning the language of their ancestors. In fact, studies show that bilingual children often have better cognitive skills, including improved memory, problem-solving, and even empathy. The ability to navigate between languages equips them with a mental flexibility that helps them in various aspects of life—academically, socially, and emotionally.
Introducing your child to their native dialect doesn’t need to be a daunting task. It can start with small, everyday actions. Instead of relying solely on English for communication at home, use your native language in casual conversations. A simple “How are you?” or “Did you eat?” in your mother tongue can go a long way. Children learn best when they can hear a language used in context and repetition. So, don’t be afraid to speak your dialect regularly, and don’t be discouraged if your child struggles at first. Consistency is key.
It’s also important to make learning the native language fun and engaging. Use stories, songs, and games that incorporate the dialect. Bedtime stories are a perfect opportunity to introduce traditional folktales that are both entertaining and educational. Songs that were passed down through generations can teach them vocabulary, rhythm, and cultural nuances. If possible, encourage them to spend time with grandparents or older relatives who are fluent in the language. The connection between generations is invaluable and can make language learning feel like a bonding experience rather than a chore.
In addition to preserving cultural identity, teaching your children your native dialect fosters a sense of pride in their heritage. When children understand and embrace their roots, they develop greater self-confidence and a more well-rounded worldview. They learn to appreciate diversity, both in their own culture and in the cultures of others. The language they speak will serve as a constant reminder that they come from a rich, proud history—a history that is worth celebrating, no matter where life takes them.
So instead of feeling embarrassed when your child fumbles their greetings in your village dialect, make teaching it a daily practice.
Turn everyday moments—mealtime, chores, bedtime stories—into language lessons. Speak to them in your dialect at home. Sing them traditional songs. Teach them proverbs. Let them laugh at their mistakes and celebrate their progress. It’s not just about words—it’s about giving them roots. By instilling this knowledge early, you’re ensuring that your child remains grounded in their heritage even as they navigate the modern world.
Because long after the trends fade and the accents change, your child’s sense of identity will remain. And what better gift to give them than a language that speaks not only to their mind, but to their soul? Let the richness of your culture shine through your words, and let your child’s future be informed by the beauty and wisdom of your native dialect. They will thank you for it in ways you can’t yet imagine.
